Spaces

I was unashamedly reading Shob's old blog post today. It was called "corner" and in it, she describes the Big Sad.

Here is the thing with the Big Sad, as she put it: we are stuck because we know how to be stuck. Our gluttony and starvation and full mouthed binging and purging and maniacal wakefulness - all are an accumulation of something wholly familiar. I'll stop speaking for her now, but for every stomach wrenching year of sitting in the stench of disappointment, I know it all so well. I was afraid that I might enjoy the pain, but this kind of demented torture is just unrelenting sin. I regret it and I beg to be freed and forgiven. Still there is no relief, no victory, just as there never will be. I know everything about winning and losing and playing, and I hate everything about it, save for a few teary conversations.

And beyond the Big Sad -

Nothing feels better on a Tuesday morning than a good hour of punching the crap out of a 100 pillar of sand. Feeling my sweat slide off my skin and my body propel itself straight off the floor... seeing my knuckles peel behind the thick boxing gloves... There have been few times in my life where I felt such a restless anger. There have been still fewer times where such has been used so arbitrarily, yet in such a way that not a single person, not even myself, was hurt. If you have $60 a month to spare, check it out.

In Frozen, Olaf says this rather profoundly: "Oh look at that! I've been impaled." I'm afraid to impale someone. Well, cheers to cowardice and young perplexity; here it is, misplaced conjunctions and semicolons alike. I can't stand the way it perpetuates intimacy on such a shallow level. I can't stand our broken resonances that frequent side by side, clashing at every wrong period, every mismatched amplitude. I hate the feeling of disorientation until the moment I step away, the stumbling restraint that bursts forth and recedes into contradiction. The Matrix is playing in the background, so excuse this..sullenness. But let me make it clear that this is no result of love or infatuation, but some gross play of experimentation and thoughtlessness.

Until it isn't. And so it is that when that space can no longer be filled and the glass shatters, over, and over, and over again, the sparks still fly.

And for you, my dear readers, artists, friends - during this indomitable trek of loneliness, I haven't really been alone at all.

Closed.

He asked if I was disappointed.
What could I say, but that I'm a disappointment too. No one ever believes it the first time.

And you thought this would be another depressing post.
Oh wait.

In one sense, nothing has changed. Being admitted to the only college I could imagine truly loving did nothing for how badly I look at myself, how horrendous yesterday was. That insensible hope for a revolution vanished in last night's crawling self-disgust. But now, it hangs, useless, spent – no, it is not spent. I am.

At the same time, I'm so relieved. Those four B's didn't mean I was stupid. Dropping AP French was more than just an act of hot indignation. National Honor Society, WYSE, JETS, who needs those? I didn't have to be a DECA champion or a prodigal student. I could just be me. And some part of this ingenuity got across, and somehow, they accepted it.

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The darkness really does hide a lot of things. That old vanilla twilight didn't have a single star... there were so many unfilled spaces, so few of those kind of whispers. But maybe this is the way its supposed to be. Maybe this way, I have no mistakes, past to hide. Maybe this way, when I'm hugging my legs to my chest and sighing at the princesses breaking out into song, I'm not thinking about roses and pillows, but a very lucky friendship.

But the darkness also creates closeness, and when the closeness becomes paper thin, shimmering like broken glass, its breaks against the rocks and rushes up the shore. And now, once again, there's no darkness to fill at all.

The Game

Something's going to change.

Senior year has been so upside down. Everyone's mixed up, everyone's entangled, and I'm so happy to have my friends.

Sometimes, when I listen to Bring Me the Night, I still wonder about what could have been. What could have been better, more beautiful, more peaceful. More tragic in some dreamily wonderful way. And the hole I promised them would still be here... it opens back up, for a moment, a vast emptiness gnaws at the past. I know that when I'm dreaming, we're dreaming, we don't seem so far. Somehow, you'll be here with me soon. You're calling me when you're sleeping beneath the same moon. I used to pretend they were still here, but as it got darker and darker, this desperate love slipped away.

Then we sit in front of each other, still smiling with shifting eyes, still wondering, still friends. Safe enough to know an entire childhood, an entire person, mysterious enough to find the delight in the wriggling lantern's lights. Something so comfortable that a foot away, what I see is a culmination of a million parts that I know deeply, parts that I pushed to kiss someone else, parts that I spent all of my attention to give to my best friend. Parts that make me furious and sink into hopelessness, parts that I've always adored and loved with all of my might.

All of these parts that came together. When I see them move into life, a surge of affection rises inside and settles in a quiet, crawling wave. Before, I said I wanted something different, but now, the quickened heartbeat, flush of laughter, helpless smile, and man... the cut. It grew on me.

Its going to change when college decisions come. T-minus 6 hours and 16 hours. Its going to change because it already has and broken hearts are all over. A couple things on that:

People don't change. Every girl wants a bad boy who will be good just for her. But there are so very few angels, so much fewer that have the power of God behind them.

Sex is unforgettable, intimate, deep, binding. It doesn't matter if you're making real love or stupid love, but nothing will ever take that away.

I thought everyone knew this one. Never make important decisions when you're emotional.

The song Payphone. One more fucking love song and I'll be sick. All those fairy tales are full of shit. The sun sets even in paradise.